Making Up Is Hard To Do

Are you having trouble with a relationship that you want to try and see if it is worth saving? Although I am presently happily married (for over 10 years now), I have been there. I know what kind of heartache and grief a breakup can cause.

This blog is for those who are still struggling with the idea of letting go. What relationships are worth fighting for, and how can you try to make up with your "ex" without losing dignity or driving them away from you further?

Let me first discuss a secret I've picked up from an awesome expert on this very topic on how to make your "ex" return your call.

Believe it or not, there ARE words that will somewhat magically make your ex feel compelled to return your phone calls, texts, or IM.


BUT...

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WARNING!
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If you convince your ex to return your call, you need to have something good to say or you can make the situation even worse.

In the phenomenal book, Magic Of Making Up, by TW Jackson, he lays
out a complete strategy.

Click here for more information about this book.

If you use this technique alone, without
an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.

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Things NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let's
go over what message almost NEVER
works.

and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."

And the EMERGENCY-

"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?

So, I won't go on and on...

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Instead Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here's the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'

So...

Let's look at what you can say
that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now...

Before you call you need to do the
"Set Up"...which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing...but needs to
be plausible.

But more importantly...

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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy
like I laid out in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.

Read more about this plan now.

If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!==><<Try The Magic Of Making UP!>>

Wishing you all the best,

Kratos